In the past week, numerous named and unnamed MPs have been accused of sexual misconduct and harassment. And although a tolerance of such misconduct has been admitted in the past, the current post-Weinstein atmosphere means that politicians are having to take these accusations seriously.
As such, it is important that politicians show solidarity with victims. But one male MP has responded in a manner that some have objected to. And he’s refusing to back down when challenged.
Not all the same
Speaking on Twitter, the Welsh Labour MP for Ogmore, Chris Elmore, said:
Just a point. There are many male MPs who are not sexist, don’t condone sexism & call it out frequently. We’re not ‘all the same’.
Several people pointed out the issue with statements like this. Elmore personally replied to a few of them:
It’s worth pointing out that this hasn’t been Elmore’s only contribution to the debate, and he had previously called out abuse and misogyny:
Never a clever joke, acceptable or one of those things to belittle women, be sexist or a misogynist. It’s not complicated just wrong, end of
— Chris Elmore MP (@CPJElmore) October 28, 2017
#NotAllMen
Some people compared Elmore’s comments to when people say ‘not all men’. Speaking about this phenomenon in Bustle, Suzannah Weiss writes:
When men say “not all men,” they’re often speaking defensively… They see themselves in stories about women’s oppression and don’t like how they’re being represented. But these stories aren’t about them, and members of marginalized groups should be able to talk about their own experiences without worrying about damaging privileged people’s egos. When men or white people or members of another privileged group have the opportunity (which nobody owes them!) to learn about another group’s experience, their job is to listen, not to defend themselves.
Listen
The Canary contacted Chris Elmore for comment, but had not heard back by the time of publication.
Regardless of Elmore’s intentions, it’s now a tired trope that, when men face accusations, a man will turn up and say ‘not all men’.
Now, more than ever, it’s important that we listen to people’s experiences. Part of that experience has been that, when speaking out, people have come up against defensiveness. By acknowledging that such defensiveness doesn’t help, we can better move forwards.
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